Part I….Visiting Della
Growing up, we were very close with the neighbors who lived around the corner from my parents. Their oldest daughter, Rayna, and my younger brother are the same age, and they were best friends growing up. She and her younger brother Stuart, were always like siblings to me, and Arleen and Lorin were a second set of parents. For Thanksgiving, Rayna and Stu were in town, and we brought Micah over for a visit and to meet Arleen’s mother, whom we all fondly call Della. Della was in love with Micah – the hugged and generally just had fun together. We had a great little visit before heading out to our Thanksgiving plans.
My cousins (Hank and Marlene – my Dad’s first cousin and her husband) own a farm in Comus, Maryland, about 25 minutes north of where we live. It is a fairly large farm – about 88 acres, I believe. For the past 15 years (at least), they have been living in an apartment over the barn. Sounds crazy, right? It is actually a very nice apartment, and I’m always amazed how they manage to fit 40-60 people in there for holidays.
We’ve been going to celebrate Thanksgiving out at the farm for many years. We have not been out there very often in the past 3 or 4 years, however, and I think this is actually the first Thanksgiving Elliot has been to the farm. For the last few years of my grandmother’s life, it was just too difficult to go out there. The apartment has about 30 steps to the front door. With 40-60 people in attendance, there is always a lot of noise and commotion, and usually more than a few runny noses. After one Thanksgiving, she caught a nasty case of pneumonia. That was the last time we all went out to the farm together. Last year, I was on bedrest at the end of my pregnancy, and we left town on Friday to head to New Jersey to attend my niece Stephanie’s bat mitzvah (against doctor’s orders), so we just had a quiet Thanksgiving in our “new” house (that turned out to be crazy, too – we were so unprepared to host a meal in our house)!
This year, we were thrilled to head back out to the farm! It was the first time my nieces had been there, and we were excited to have Micah spend time with his cousins and extended family. We arrived around 3:00 pm. After all these years, Hank and Marlene are finally building a “real” house, and we were able to take a tour. Their daughter, Lisa, gave us the grand tour, and we were really excited to see it. It should be ready in 2010, and hopefully next Thanksgiving, we’ll be dining in the house!
We all started out milling around inside the apartment and catching up. Outside, there was a swing set and a jungle gym for the kids, and we were able to bring the kids to the field to see the animals. Micah got to pet a pony – he was a bit unsure, though. He could hear the dogs barking (they were in the barn to keep from being underfoot) and all he wanted to do was find the dogs.
On Friday morning, bright at early, we loaded up the car and hit the road. We went to New Jersey to spend Thanksgiving Part III with Elliot’s family! In an effort to accommodate us, they graciously agreed to postpone Thanksgiving until Friday. Not surprisingly, we left a bit later than we had planned (Elliot never quite gets out the door on time). Micah was really good in the car, and fell asleep quickly.
A few hours into the trip, Micah woke up (as expected) and we stopped for lunch. He sat in a high chair, ate some pizza, and was truly wonderful. Until we had to get back into the car. Unfortunately, he had had enough car time, and he was fidgety and crying on and off the rest of the trip. We sang to him and played games, and eventually, we got him to fall back asleep for a little while, but he was awake and crying the last 1/2 hour of the trip. We finally arrived at my Steven and Jodi’s house, and everyone was there waiting for us. Micah got to crawl all around and play, and he spent some quality time with his family. He sat with his Grandma Roberta and Poppy Ira, and he played with his cousins Ethan, Stephanie, Brian and Melissa, and he had a great time. Unfortunately, we don’t have any pictures – we accidentally left our camera at the farm and missed a great photo opportunity.
Elliot and I had done a lot of the cooking – we brought turkey, pumpkin pie, sweet potatoes, and a few other things. My sisters-in-law made meatloaf, broccoli, mashed potatoes, and a few other side dishes and desserts. Everyone got along really well, and we had a fun celebration. Thanksgiving turned out to be a fantastic holiday, and perhaps we’ll try doing this again in the future.
Bedtime in NJ was a bit of a challenge. Micah was in unfamiliar territory, and he really didn’t want to go to sleep. I ended up having to go in there and sit with him for over an hour to get him to sleep. He finally crashed, but he did not sleep all that well. He woke up around 5:30 in the morning, and it was a challenging day. Luckily, Micah’s cousins wanted to spend some time with him, so Elliot and I got a bit of a break. Jodi was a huge help, too – I apparently was sound asleep during Micah’s morning nap, and when he started crying, I didn’t even move! She went upstairs, changed his diaper and brought him downstairs and gave him a bottle while I got some much-needed sleep. I can’t even begin to tell you how thankful I was! My niece Stephanie was able to catch a few photos on her camera: